Baby Development

The full development of a baby alone will be able to occur to count itself on the love of its parents, that it is the expression of the close relation of what the scholars call of attachment. The authors show that he has different forms of attachment, established since the beginning of the relation between the mother and the baby. Mitchell Blutt may not feel the same. Around the eighteen months different reactions of babies can be defined front to the approach and the distanciamento of the mother, not being possible to define the reasons that take the different types of attachment. It is observed that in the presence of a strange person, ahead of the removal and the return of the mother, some children reveal a standard of safe attachment, looking it in its return and being easily comforted for it, exactly having protested to its exit. This standard of kept attachment being, in general, in such a way favors the adequacy of posterior relationships in infancy as in the adult life. On the other hand, some babies demonstrate a unsafe attachment that can be observed with different manifestations.

The children who do not complain the removal of the mother, preventing it its return and continuing to play as if nothing of uncommon it had happened, are identified with having a evitativo attachment to the reference figure. The resistant attachment, in turn, is revealed by the babies who, when the mother leaves, are aflitos and, when return, is come close and moved away alternatingly from it. The persistence of the evitativo attachment and the resistant attachment leads to consolidate the search of unsafe and unstable relationships, in which the individual hardly reaches a satisfactory standard of based affective exchanges in relations reliable mutual. Zavaschi, Brunstein and Costa (2001) present one room type of attachment where it can ahead be identified between children who seem confused and with fear of the removal and the approach of its mothers.

The Way

To be able to offer our children a quality education and upbringing, we have to have certain aspects that are likely to lead us to do: A. – Children are not an extension of the parents. They are independent people who feel alone, they think for themselves and have a personality that stands out from birth. They are special. When we do not understand this situation frustrated because kids do not do things the way we want. Definitely not, will do it according to what they are and can, according to their age and abilities. I do not want to misunderstand me, of course, we need to guide them to learn habits and limits, but definitely can not do what I want, need and desire. B.

– The parents are just facilitators of child development. This means that they are not our property, that acts of abuse or violence are not justified by any reason. Besides that they are people who are in a development process where they have to strengthen their self-esteem, self-concept and personality. Yes we as parents constantly criticize, instead, to show the way to make something better, then surely we are educating children resentful, feeling unable to do something right, moreover, that his personal experience and self-concept will be developed for distorted way. The skills, abilities and learning, will always be supported on the testing and the error. Or, perhaps, did you learned all the first? Of course not, also made mistakes, also was frustrated, he also gave their cates, also scolded, and perhaps had to get things done countless times until finally things went, so what you could do the.