Any discussion both parties assume that they are right. The ego, pride makes us believe that the other is wrong and we alone are the true owners. In this world there are so poor communication, are handled as many words whose meaning is understood differently, until the silence was interpreted incorrectly and on that basis it reaches conclusions that often hurt the loved ones. The ego also loves the role of victim. It's always the other who offended us, it's always the other who shouted at us, it's always the other who disrespected us, therefore we believe we have the right to offend, yelling, disrespect as a defense mechanism. The arrogance caused by ego prevents us from accepting the fact that the other side might be right. Instead of striving to understand the viewpoint of the other party, seek in our intellect more reasons to sustain and support our approach. One who has more ego, desire to dominate, you want to be the protagonist of each meeting, who want to have the last word in any discussion is ultimately suffer most as they can not detach from your ego.
It's so hard to let go of the ego, and it produces joy. The ego, so that the spirit is not imposed, it invades and creates a kind of dependency. Unit praise, recognition, applause, like knowing needed. In the case of the ego is very strong dependence. The person wears a mask of authority and the chief costume is precisely what makes it very difficult to integrate their love in words and therefore very difficult to be always the master of himself.